School grades are NOT that meaningful to me. Important, yes. Significant - partly. Grades tell only half of the story; which is the learning process. What is written on the card does not indicate the entire learning that took place. Ironic, it may sound because I am an educator.
My eldest girl's grades were not that impressive last quarter. Knowing her, I am convinced she could have done better. Knowing her, I know she has learned more than what her card indicates. Had I been a grade conscious parent, I would really be disappointed. Hubby was the one more dismayed.
So hubby and I talked to her. The goal was not to pressure her to do better or bring home good grades. The idea was to ask her if she was contented with what she got. Bursting into tears, she said no and apologized to us. And that she wanted better grades next time. We asked her if she wanted our help and she said : yes. Thus, the three of us schemed a plan to help her improve her performance next quarter.
I told her: "Along the way we will be disappointed, dismayed or frustrated with some of the things that you do, but we will always LOVE you as you are."
How about you? Do you talk to your kids this way, too? If not, how do you do it?